山顶冻人 发表于 2021-7-16 16:16:00

一定要在老家有套房!(值得深思 权衡利弊)■明 亮 编辑 整理


      我们的生命在故乡开始,也要在故乡结束。

      “家,生命开始的地方。人的一生,都在回家的路上。”每个人的一生都会走千千万万条路,但魂牵梦绕的只有一条路——回家的路。无论走得多远,心头牵绊的永远是记忆深处的家。人的一生,都在回家的路上。背井离乡多年,才明白,他乡只是征途,故乡才是归宿。人老了,一定要在老家有套房,因为那才是真正的家。

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      老家有套房,人生有退路。“年少不觉家乡好,老来方知乡愁长。”(张子 撰句)

      对许多人来说,在外的房子只是住的地方,老家的房子才是永远的“家”。无论离家多远,只要老家的房子还在,人生就有退路,累了、倦了、想回家了,就永远有个安顿的归宿。在古代,无论再富裕无论官当得再大,一定会在老家留套宅子,这样无论遭遇什么变故,至少还有一条退路,子孙后代也有条活路。再穷再苦,也不能变卖祖宅。《红楼梦》中,秦可卿托梦给王熙凤,提醒凤姐:贾府已经显赫了百年,富贵了三代,有道是“盛极必衰,月满则亏”,要居安思危,想好退路,才不至于“树倒猢狲散”。什么退路?秦可卿说:“趁着今日富贵,在老家祖茔附近多置办房舍田地,便是败落下来,子孙后代也可以回老家读书耕田,有个退路,祖宗香火也可永继。”老家有套房,人生有退路,古代如此,如今亦然如此。如果你在远方的城市无法立足,故乡永远有个家等着你回来。如果故乡的房子没了,就仿佛无根的野草,不知道归宿在哪儿,有一天想逃离城市,却不知道该往哪里逃。

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      老家有套房,人生有归宿。中国人讲究落叶归根,即便走到千里之外,最终还是要回到故乡,因为故乡是我们的来处,也是我们必然的归途,那里有我们的祖先,有我们的童年,有人情的味道,有血脉传承的脉脉温情。木心的一生漂泊不定,从故乡乌镇辗转到上海,年过半百,孤身前往千里之外的纽约求学,在海外漂泊二十多年。1994年,木心曾回到故乡,但故乡的变化让他伤心失望,他说:“在习惯概念中,'故乡',就是'最熟识的地方',而目前我只知地名,除方言没变,此外,一无是处......永别了,我不会再来。”他曾如此决绝地说不再回故乡,到了79岁,木心还是决定回故乡乌镇,定居晚晴小筑,在老家的房子里度过了生命中最后的五年。树高千丈,落叶归根。木心一生坎坷,暮年回到了故乡,有个安顿的居处,漂泊不定的灵魂才终于有了归宿。能在故乡终老,他的心里是安慰的吧。有人说:“我渐渐明白,我步履匆匆,脚步不停,其实不是为了走多远,而是为了回家。”背井离乡的人,年纪越大,越深切地明白“故乡”的含义,“老家”在心中的重量。落叶归根,是每个中国人心底里抹不去的情怀。故人难舍,故土难离,当你老了,一定要在老家有套房,有房才有家,有家才能落叶归根。

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      老家有套房,老年有所依。回老家安享晚年,是很多人的愿望。老了,回到老家,种点瓜果蔬菜,养几只鸡鸭,没事和老友喝茶聊天,如此惬意安详,心灵也会回归宁静。故乡在哪儿,家在哪儿,灵魂就在哪儿。奔波忙碌了一辈子,当你老了,应当回归故乡,回到生命开始的地方,回归心灵的宁静乡。明朝开国功臣刘伯温辅佐朱元璋平定天下后,请求告老还乡,回故乡青田养老,他写了一首退休诗:买条黄牛学种田,借间茅屋傍林泉。因思老去无多日,且向山中过几年。为吏为官皆是梦,能诗能酒总神仙。世间万事皆增价,老去文章不值钱。回故乡养老,闲来在院子里喝茶,看书,听虫鸣鸟叫,看庭前花开花落,望天上云卷云舒。过着诗酒田园的神仙生活,人也会更长寿。老家有套房,老年有所依。故乡没有车马喧嚣,没有环境污染,只有朴实的大地,干净的空气、流水,和温暖的人情味。我们的生命在故乡开始,也要在故乡终老。

      故乡,是每个人生命的来处。只有明白了自己从何处来,才能知道自己该往何处去。当你老了,一定要在故乡有套房。这是我们疲于奔命时最温馨的退路,是我们孤独彷徨时最温柔的依靠,也是我们年老时最温暖的归宿。


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爱笑的女子 发表于 2021-7-16 16:52:37

田园生活

有得必有失 发表于 2021-7-16 17:54:21

这观点没毛病

日月明空曌 发表于 2021-7-16 18:29:10

天下没有不散的宴席,但家乡,可以陪我们多呆一会儿!梦里春风赶路,红绿相撵,白黄追逐,多少颜色,从枕边摸着黑,一路缤纷到故乡,多少思念在其间!!

山顶冻人 发表于 2021-7-16 19:04:57

日月明空曌 发表于 2021-07-16 18:29
天下没有不散的宴席,但家乡,可以陪我们多呆一会儿!梦里春风赶路,红绿相撵,白黄追逐,多少颜色,从枕边摸着黑,一路缤纷到故乡,多少思念在其间!!

感谢关注和真情点评,谢谢!祝好~~~https://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_073.pnghttps://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_076.pnghttps://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_081.pnghttps://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_084.pnghttps://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_088.pnghttps://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_074.png

zyp14752362337 发表于 2021-7-16 19:12:58

在外游子的心声!https://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_068.png

1316265381 发表于 2021-7-16 23:00:17

我家在我们村上就搬了4次家,前3次老屋住基都改为良田了

骆在其中 发表于 2021-7-17 08:55:03

四年前把老家的房子拆了重新盖二层小楼

绿豆鲨 发表于 2021-7-17 09:33:28

我们的生命在故乡开始,也要在故乡结束。

万家灯火 发表于 2021-7-17 14:13:29

“年少不觉家乡好,老来方知乡愁长。”

南雨 发表于 2021-7-18 07:17:21

没有用10分的仔细阅读,但也看了七八分,

这玩意,只属于鸡汤,只属于上个世纪,

这个时代, 这个想法,不敢苟同https://app.hongze.net/public/emotion/face_018.png
亲人在家,哪里就是家,家人在哪,哪里就是家!

老家有套房,回家养老, 说白了,都是扯蛋, 60岁退休,还是帮帮子女带带娃! 要么就靠着子女歇歇,太远了,真的不需要照顾吗?
太多太多的不切实际

山顶冻人 发表于 2021-7-20 22:41:48


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山顶冻人 发表于 2021-7-20 22:42:15


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山顶冻人 发表于 2021-7-20 22:42:52


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山顶冻人 发表于 2021-7-20 22:43:40


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